Online Dating Story: "We were a 100% match."
By Autumn and Steven, Beaverton, Oregon
Updated: Oct 20, 2009
Autumn's StoryAutumn,
31:
After a couple of years of a "dating vacation," I
was ready to open my life to a potential relationship. I decided to
sign up with
Yahoo! Personals
because my lifestyle didn't include
meeting people at bars, clubs, or the usual venues. My life was busy
with school, work, and, because I am an introvert at heart and love to
spend more time with books than chatting with new people, it seemed to
be the best solution for me. I felt safe approaching the
dating
world
this way because I could take as long as I needed.
Yahoo!
Personals has a feature where it finds your best matches. So, actually,
Yahoo! chose Steven for me first. I reviewed his dating profile a few times
but was too nervous to send him an Icebreaker. Thankfully, Steven sent
me one first, I paid the monthly fee, and began talking to my future
husband. The best $19.95 I ever spent!
I
was immediately attracted to him, and he was easy to talk with. I tend
to be more of a listener and he is more of a talker. So, it worked
quite well. He sealed the deal when he offered to hold my leftovers for
me as I went to the ladies room. This, for some reason, left a powerful
impression on me. What a gentleman! After two dates we were on the fast
track (which was uncharacteristic of me). He gave me a key to his home
just days after meeting him. I practically moved in that first week of
meeting. After about a month, I met his father and his wife, whom I
fell in love with.
I did have moments
of questioning whether I should be involved with a man who was still
officially married and working out the details of a divorce. This was a
very confusing and challenging time for the both of us. Here is this
very compatible, great guy, yet he is still working on closing a
chapter of his life. This was very hard for me and made me very
nervous.
The defining moment for me was
when we were in Tuscany, Italy. We had just had our worst argument in
our history. We somehow managed to resolve our issues and come out of
the argument showing care and compassion, in addition to not wanting to
give up on our growing relationship. It was then I realized I could not
imagine my life without him. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with
him, for

he was willing to see my ugliest side, yet he was willing to
hang on and work with it.
he was willing to see my ugliest side, yet he was willing to
hang on and work with it. He was invested in me and revealed his
heart and commitment in that moment. I realized he was the real
deal.
Steven's StorySteven,
38: I was just looking for companionship as I was
separated and waiting for my divorce to be finalized, so I signed up
for Yahoo! Personals. I went out on one date, then I saw Autumn's
profile. We were a 100% match. Her tagline, "Just Me" -- was strange to
me, as if she didn't think very highly of herself. I sent her an
Icebreaker anyway. Turns out we lived a five-minute walk from each
other.
After a three-hour phone
conversation, we made plans for a first date. We had an agreement: We
would go out to dinner and then we could walk away, no issues. Well, we
went to dinner, and then for coffee, and we closed the place down. Two
days later, she had the key to my place. I called her my custom-ordered
girlfriend, right down to the color of her hair.
Our
relationship started out complicated, due largely to me still being
married. A lot happened -- I changed careers, she decided to get a
graduate degree, we moved to Portland, and my father died. But we knew
we had something special, and we would persevere, and underneath there
would be a shining diamond.
Six months
after we met online, we did the "Big Trip" -- a three-month trip to
Eastern Europe and Italy. It was a defining time of building our
relationship. We had only known each other for six months and here we
were traveling on a low budget, together 24/7 for 90 days -- it was
very stressful. We fought. Autumn later told me (in her wedding vows)
that it was in the midst of a fight by the side of a country road in
Tuscany that she knew she wanted to spend the rest of her life with
me.
I didn't want to do a surprise
proposal and catch her off guard. We had talked about marriage before,
but we weren't ready. Then one day at breakfast I said, "I'm ready." We
talked about it and decided this is the next right path. Let's do this!
The clouds and confusion had parted, it was pure and ready.
Our
wedding was in August '08. It was very small, 20 people, just immediate
family. We chose a winery near our house, to commemorate our trip to
Italy and to honor my father, who loved wine. It was very informal and
all ours -- we created the ceremony. It was incredible to hear Autumn's
vows to me, and she was crying when she heard mine.
We
love to tell the story of how we met on Yahoo! Personals. It was even
part of our wedding vows. It's part of who we are. Yahoo! was an
unbelievably efficient way to find exactly what I was looking for. It
was a life-changing event for me. She's the one! Thank you for helping
me find my life partner.
Online Dating Success Tips from Steven and Autumn- Give
Yahoo! Personals a try even if you are reserved, busy, or unsure. You
are in control the whole time. You can review people's profiles before
deciding to meet them and you can email through a safe system before
deciding to meet.
- Don't embellish
anything in your dating profile.
Because when you meet, if it doesn't match up, you're off to a bad
start.
- Realize that everyone's at a different stage and looking for different things.
- Meeting
online will never take the place of meeting face-to-face. Use the
service to make a connection, but it's your job to take it from
there.
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