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Get Intimate with Your Date's Soul: Try these revealing questions
By Shawn David Jackson
Special to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Mar 31, 2008
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Do you know your date's soul? By "soul" I mean that immaterial, spiritual part of you that's deeper than your physical appearance. It's even deeper than your intellect or logical ability to reason. Your soul houses your deepest desires. These desires possibly have the greatest impact on your values and govern why you do what you do on a daily basis.
It's common to want to rush into a relationship with a date you find outwardly attractive. But it's important to slow down and become familiar with your date's soul, because your
compatibility with his or her soul is the real measure of whether you can develop a lasting relationship
compatibility with his or her soul is the real measure of whether you can develop a lasting relationship together.
Questions to askcompatibility with his or her soul is the real measure of whether you can develop a lasting relationship Here are some fun, probing questions that you can ask to help you become more intimate with your date's soul:
- If someone gave you $10 million with no strings attached, what would you do with it?
- If you could sit down to lunch with any three people (living or dead), who would they be?
- If you only had six months to live, what would you do?
Some may consider the following questions too personal for a first date. Keep these questions at the ready as you get to know the other person. Please don't fire all the questions in rapid succession like a police interrogator. Be as natural and conversational as possible.
- What values do you hold most deeply?
- What are the most important things in life?
- What does happiness mean to you?
- What would it take to make you happy?
- What are some of the traditions/rituals practiced in your family?
- What event (negative or positive) was a turning point in your life or taught you something you didn't know about yourself?
- Who are your mentors or role models?
Of course, I can't guarantee that someone will give you honest answers to your questions. Your job will be to watch and analyze whether their actions reflect their words.
