Honestly, I do not feel the woman asking the question gave enough information for the writer to have responded at all. How can you answer a question such as, "Why do I get jealous when...," when you do not have all the facts. It is true that more than likely she probably has low self esteem, or possible control issues, but what if her 'guy' is one to go out with the boys often? What if her guy tends to show other women more affection that what he dawns upon her? There is just too much information missing to logically answer this womans question. Personally, it probably has to do with him not showing you enough attention at home and it leaves you feeling as if he doesn't enjoy your company and he needs to find it someplace else. But, if you tell him all of this he will probably become stressed from information overload, so give him info in small bits.

i agree

Boy's night out - Girl's night out - dough?

everyone get jealous but remember a little is flattering alot becomes annoying and actually makes the person wanna cheat so you can have something to be sus. about

i'm going through this very thing tonight.. my hubby of 4 years is wanting to go to a hude bar with his friends.. one of the mis getting married and this is a lil party for him.. i was asked to and i was going to go but our daughter is sick and i cant go.. i got upset when he was going to contunie to go without me even though since we have gotten married i told him the only way he could go to the nude bar or any bar is if we go together.. he was still planning to go up until i got upset... but know he is upset with me becuse i told him it bothered me.. what do you do?

Ditto, not enough to make a real call. Generic situations can maybe make sense, but the specific details included define the real situation. I went through this before my current divorce, and she seemed to start slow and continue to build more time around the girls' nights out, then when she started to really stop showing affection I started to find a little jealousy swelling. I kept it down, but now wonder what would've been if I had expressed it sooner and called her on it - in a different scale, this can be akin to infidelity, especially if those outside relationships take precedence over family life and children, perhaps. Just not being jealous doesn't fit the bill, I think open communication is what needs to start. I could write myself notes all day about how I feel about myself, but that doesn't do anything to communicate my feelings to my spouse.

It's pure poison. If you feel that way, then get out. I had an ex, she was the most, the worst. And I did nothing to make her that way. No relationship is worth that kind of irrational mistrust.

Look, she's a looser and he should leave her.

First of all I know how you feel. I have gone that route with my exhusband. He put my self-esteem so low that I didnt have any hope. But let me give you some advice if you put god first in your life and trust him and have faith he will never forsake you. The more you pray the and ask for his help he would get u thru.After all of this I know remarried and found a great husband. We attend church and god does wonders in our marriage. The advice i can give is that trust in the lord he is the only one who can help us..

I think it's human nature, to a certain extent. Most women (not all) want their mate to feel the desire to spend all his spare time with her. Whether he does or not, we still "want" him to feel that way. Secondly, I think men have a problem communicating in a way that makes women comfortable with him going out w/the boys. If they only knew how to talk to us just right.....in a way that would make us worry soooo much less! But instead they tend to make it short-to the point "hey, I'm going out w/the guys"!...kind of like: that's it baby, like it or not!