How about answering the question?

The answer is clear---don't try to change the other person. Instead value them and look at changing yourself first. A more direct answer is: SHE locks the door after HE comes in since she knows he may not. A shorter version is: Take responsibility for your own insecurity or feelings versus seeking to change others. While I do think that there is room for compromise in any relationship, women do tend to want to change others wheras men tend to hope women do not change from the type of woman she was when they were dating.

Very poor response. The question was never answered. My issue would be why a man would repeatedly ignore something that was a concern to his partner/girlfriend/spouse, even though he wasn't worried about it. At the very least, they should be discussing it. If someone had to ask me a number of times to do (or not do something), I would evaluate their request and address it with them and try to find some sort of mututally agreeable solution. It is not about trying to change someone.

Okay, here is what I would do. Find his most prized possession and take it to your moms house. Tell him that since he didn't lock the door that it must have gotten stolen. :) Trust me, you will find that when it becomes an issue to him as well, then you'll get your way. The point is, you shouldn't have to plead with him on something like this, which leaves me to believe he doesn't give a crap. But, he will care when that prized baseball card collection, gun, or golf clubs are jacked. Of course, you will give them back to him when he starts locking the door on a regular basis... lol

Ditto. The question was not answered and wasted my time in reading about a lot of irrelevant stuff. Men understand direct actions and direct comments...not some round-about behavior changing. If he's missing the protection provider gene, dump him, he'll get worse in the future. Anyone who can't understand a simple request of locking the door (a must in NYC), won't care about other issues of his GF as well. Dump him.

There are a lot of instances where apartments and homes have had intruders simply walk in and kill someone..Cut out some articles or print them off and put them in front of him. If after reading the horrendous details of these attacks he doesnt get it....Id really have to wonder how much you are valued. I must admit I wake up to find the front door is locked when I am asleep after he's left out for work. This makes me smile and I hope for you that your partner figures out how to lock that door.

I've got to say, the tone of this article seemed to imply that usually the more cautious/ safety-oriented person was wrong and irrational, and the advice seemed primarily geared to managing one's feelings of fear (with a little bit of lip service paid to the other side). In a lot of instances, and this instance in particular, the more cautious person is in the right. Locking the front door takes 2 seconds, greatly decreases the odds that persona non grata will come into your house, and is pretty standard in this day and age in the developed world. Why is this columnist minimizing legitimate security concerns by implying that they're due to an irrational, emotional reaction? If you've ever been in a car with someone who won't bother to buckle their seatbelt, you know that reckless people can be just as irrational.

Watch the movie "Derailed" together?