Dating Survey: Women on Finding "The One" - Perception vs. Reality
Survey says women value social life and family orientation/closeness the most
By Yahoo! Personals & TheKnot.com
Updated: Aug 13, 2008
When
asked, how did you meet your significant other, the most frequent response was
"through friends," followed by "school," "work" or "an online dating site." Among
the least cited responses were "at a bar" or "at church."
When
asked how you expected to meet your significant other, responses varied
from the reality, with the largest majority of respondents saying they expected
to meet through a "casual encounter."
Do
Opposites Attract?When asked, how similar they were to their significant other in some fundamental
areas,

respondents overwhelming said they were similar in all but one area -
their profession.
respondents overwhelming said they were similar in all but one area -
their profession. The following percentages represent those who
said they were "very similar" or "similar" with their significant other in each
of the categories.
- Social life - 90%
- Age - 89%
- Ethnicity - 87%
- Family orientation/closeness - 85%
- Politics - 85%
- Religion - 84%
- Work/life habit - 83%
- Income - 70%
- Profession - 38%
What Matters MostWhen asked, which of the following characteristics was most important when searching
for your significant other, respondents ranked "family orientation/ closeness"
as the most important and "income" as the least important. The following
percentages represent how respondents ranked each characteristic in order of
importance.
- Family
orientation/closeness - 44%
- Religion - 17%
- Social life - 16%
- Work life habit - 11%
- Age - 5%
- Ethnicity - 3%
- Profession - 2%
- Politics - 1%
- Income - 1%
Relationship Stages - Meeting Online vs. OfflineWhen comparing respondents who met online with the ones who met their significant
other offline, an interesting trend emerged.

The online daters reached
"relationship milestones" more quickly than those who met offline.
The online daters reached
"relationship milestones" more quickly than those who met offline.
Initial
Dating - Online daters began dating more quickly than offline daters, with 77%
saying they started dating within the first four weeks of meeting each other,
compared to 50% of offline daters.
Feeling
Chemistry - More than half (55%) of all respondents said they felt chemistry
with their significant other in the first two weeks. But, 30% of those who met
offline said it took between "six months" and "two or more years" to feel
chemistry, compared with only 5% of online daters, who were more likely to feel
chemistry earlier on.
Understanding
Interests - Online daters (60%) said they had a better understanding of their
significant other in the first four weeks of dating than offline daters (41%).
Getting
Exclusive - Online daters got exclusive more quickly than offline daters - 80%
compared with 56% in the first three months, or 52% vs. 32% in the first month,
respectively.
Getting
Family "Buy-In" - 45% of online daters got "buy-in" within three months
of dating; whereas only 31% of offline daters did.
Engagement
- Online daters got engaged more quickly - more than two-thirds (70%) of online
daters were engaged in less than two years, whereas more than half (55%)
of offline daters got engaged after more than two years.
Marriage
- Online daters married more quickly - 38% were married within two years of
engagement, while 62% of offline daters married after more than two years of
being engaged.
Do You
Believe in Magic?
Love
at First Site - Two-thirds (64%) of all respondents said they didn't experience
love at first site, with only one-third (36%) saying they were hit with Cupid's
arrow.
Leaving
it to Fate - An overwhelming 78% of people said they felt like they were fated
for their significant other; 22% said it was just "pure chance."
First Kiss - Slightly more than half (54%) said they kissed on their first date.
Separate Quarters? - A majority of respondents (70%) said they will live with their
significant other before getting married.
Survey
MethodologyYahoo! Personals and
TheKnot.com polled 9,500 adults in North America during March 2008. Ninety-eight percent of the respondents
were female. Complete survey results are available to members of the media and
can be obtained by requesting them by email.