Donna -- Congrats on getting your guy to take his profile down. That's a Herculean accomplishment in the game of online dating! Get out the bubbly. Now, why would you think he is lying to you about dating you exclusively? When we first start to feel close to someone, women tend to get paranoid and fear that our newfound happiness will suddenly vanish. You need to snap out of it before it gets self-destructive or the man begins to sense it. Cynicism and suspicion can be pretty unattractive!

If curiosity is really killing you, check out this "other" dating site and find out if he's actually been inactive. Personal sites are great at documenting how often people visit/update/actively log in to their profiles. When you have gotten the snooping urge out of your system, take a deep breath and sit back. Let this relationship grow without anxiety or fear.

You like this guy for a reason and he hasn't done anything to prove unworthy of your trust. Next time you're in bed together, having sweet pillow talk, casually mention that you're happy you both aren't dating other people. If you see him squirm, you may want to get out that bottle of bubbly again -- only this time, drink it with your girlfriends for a bitch-and-moan feel-good session till you get him out of your system!

Donna -- I'm going to give you three ways to handle this situation. You can choose which one best suits your personality and go for it. Having dealt with this issue before, I know most folks would prefer to take the mature approach but instead rely on the gut-feel approach, only to resort to the sneaky approach to gather some hard evidence. But if you really want to stay out of the snooping department and keep things on the right track from the start, I highly recommend you stick with either the gut-feel or mature approach.

#1: The Sneaky Approach. Ask one of your single friends to join the online dating site where he's still active. Then have that friend contact your man and express interest. If he writes back, you'll know he's been lying. If he never gets back to your friend, then he's probably no longer active on that site.

#2: The Gut-Feel Approach. Look for other signs that he's cheating. For example, does he overly protect his cell phone voicemails and text messages? Does he avoid answering directly what he's up to on nights you don't get together? Does he have a few too many female friends? The more signs he's cheating, the more likely it's true.

#3: The Mature Approach. We all know healthy relationships are built on open communication. So you can just ask him about the other site. The key is not to come across as angry or jealous. That will make your man defensive, and he'll either deny everything or accuse you of snooping.

Donna -- First off, what were you doing searching for your new beau on another dating site? I know how tempting it is to do an online search for everyone you know, but it will drive you mad. It's the equivalent of looking up "sore throat" and all of the online answers have you convinced that you'll die within the hour.

Relationships are all about honesty and trust. You don't need to trust him yet -- trust takes time to build -- but that should be your ultimate goal. In order to trust people, though, you need to be honest. Start now. Rather than "calling him on it," try telling him your own worries first: that you're concerned he's not as committed to you as you would like him to be. And then ask him straight up whether you're (to borrow a nice little term from the golden oldie club) "steady" or if he's still playing the field.

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