Joann, congratulations for being honest in your profile. Stop worrying about men making the first move. Stop thinking that initiating a conversation is desperate. It's not only okay to do prospecting, it's wise. I know of many situations where women have made the initial contact and ended up with the man they contacted.

If men only want younger women, whether you make the first move or not won't matter; either way they likely won't date you. That's okay, you wouldn't want to be with them anyway. What if you contact a man -- who happens to be shy -- and he turns out to be thrilled that you did? Had you not made the first move, you wouldn't have met him. Remember, dating at our age is a numbers game. Be a little assertive.

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