In this debate, authors Christine Hassler and Jason Ryan Dorsey attempt to demystify what each gender thinks about height and its impact on dating.

As someone who dated a jerk, whom I now refer to as my "learning experience," I admit to falling under the jerk spell. Here's how the jerk spell works: we meet the jerk and in some twisted way are seduced by his confidence, charm, and passion. We don't se

How do I get over this person? My friends tell me that he was the wrong person for me, as we broke up numerous times in our year-long relationship. I really do love him and can't get him out of my mind. Every day something reminds me of him. I was kind of

I am married with no kids and seeing a man who is married with three kids. I've been married for three years and he's been married for eight years. We met a year and a half ago at work and feel we are in love with each other. We did not start this relatio

For over a month now I have been talking with this guy I met on a dating site. We have talked for hours every night. We finally met and we now see each other 2 or 3 times a week. He pulled his profile from the site and said he wants to date only me. I'm t

A few times I have met this woman who has two kids. I also have two kids. I am 30 and she is a little older, maybe 35. When I do see her, I make her laugh and her laugh makes me smile. I have been divorced for eight years and have rarely dated, but for so

I've been in an on-again, off-again relationship with a man for 3+ years. He had been married for 20+ years. I was close friends with him for three years before that. After his separation, we decided to start dating. He was very upfront with me about his

I am a single parent of a 13-year-old boy and a 10-year-old girl. I would like to know how exactly I should handle dating with my kids and a mother who cops an attitude about watching my kids for me while I go out on a date. I don't have other family to k

I am starting to date someone I have admired for a few years. When I finally approached this person romantically, they responded just as I had hoped. We had a little discussion to get each other's expectations clear, and I thought all was well. But the la

I asked out a man from my workplace and we went out that weekend. I asked him and yet he paid (impressive). This gentleman has two full-time jobs, and he had a bad breakup and has not dated in years. So again my surprise that he said yes (to me).

"I have been seeing my boyfriend, Brian, for 10 months now. I am the first woman he has dated since his divorce, whereas I have been divorced for 10 years and have dated numerous men. We get along great and have a really good relationship. He is 45, I am

My entire adult life, I have gone out to all the places you're told to go to meet someone special. Nothing. I never even get asked out. It's like I'm invisible, and my life has wasted away because there's not a damn thing I can to do to 'make' someone

I am dating a man I think I have fallen in love with quickly. He also seems to like me, but he's a busy man with three kids. He says he'll call or come by but often doesn't follow through with his promises and doesn't ever explain why he hasn't called o

I am dating two men. After being married for 25 years, I want to date for a while and see what's out there. I like them both very much. One I have unbelievable chemistry with. He is both good-looking and rich and totally turns me on. He likes me a lot, to

"I've been interested in a guy for a few years, and our relationship is mainly through emails. We have met in person a number of times, talked on the phone a lot, and chatted online. I know he is interested too, but he is terribly shy (but I like it). Whe

I've been going with a guy for a couple years, and I think he may be the one. We've even been talking about marriage. But certain things have started to get on my nerves, and I'm worried that it will just get worse after we're married. Nothing major, just

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year, and I would love to get him something awesome for his birthday. What do you suggest? (Aside from pantygrams and blowup dolls and NASCAR tickets.) Thanks!

I've been divorced a few months and am starting to date again. But a strange thing has happened a couple of times already. The women bail out when I tell them I'm recently divorced. They don't want to be the "rebound" relationship, they say, or they quest

Can a long-distance relationship work? I am 53 (never married) and recently met a lovely woman, 44. I live in the Bay Area, and she lives in Southern California. We have been enjoying e-mailing and phoning each other, and I will visit her soon. However, h

Question: I've been out with a guy a few times but not really on dates. It's always been with a group of people. But we really seem to hit it off, and he pays a lot of attention to me during those get-togethers. After the last one, he emailed to say what

We got some interesting feedback when we wrote about whether a guy should be expected to pay for most everything in the initial phases of courtship. (Our position: The guy pays, especially if he does the asking, but we encourage even a halfheartedly mumbl

Should the guy pay for the date? I'm struggling with a money issue with a guy I've been dating a few months. We make similar money -- not much, but not minimum wage. We were splitting the bill when we first started dating.

Dear Steve and Lynelle, I used to be somewhat of a wild woman. I went through a two-year phase of partying, drinking, and irresponsibility. At the end of last year, I really turned my life around. Now I have a steady job and stopped drinking and I have my

I met a really great guy on Yahoo! Personals a few months ago. We see each other about once a week, or once every two weeks. He is always doing things for me like working on my car and helping me out in any way he can. However, I am not sure if I am consi

I'm brand new to the Internet scene as well as the whole dating scene itself. Not to brag but I get a lot of guys emailing me with the usual "You have a nice smile, let's chat, etc." I'm getting better at the initial encounters online, but it's the second

Dear Steve and Lynelle, I am a young man in college. In the past few years I've had several girlfriends, but they seem to be more girls who are friends. Maybe I'm just unlucky in love, but girls seem to have no interest in being girlfriends. I've caught t

When talking to men I meet for the first time on Personals, I find they often ask extremely personal questions about my sexual and dating past, like how many sexual partners I've had and what I like. How do I object to answering these questions without ma

I've been with someone for two years and have a feeling he's not over his ex. We have both been divorced for eight years. How do I get that out of my mind or take it for what it is? -- Shea H., 29, Guntersville, Alabama

I have been seeing one guy for about eight months now. My sons (15 and 20) find his personality irritating. They don't like his humor or his strong opinions. Should I end the relationship? -- Marge G., 48, Schenectady, New York

I found someone from my past who I hadn't seen in 15 years but have thought about often and hoped that one day we would meet again. We have both recently divorced (in the past year). Since we already have a past, the normal dating scenario doesn't really

I feel that I have been very honest in my profile about just wanting friends and/or an occasional date. However, almost every man who emails me seems to be looking for a serious, monogamous relationship. I want to get out, meet new people and date more th

I've run into many people who feel that there is an unwritten rule about how soon you should date after a separation or divorce. How soon is too soon? -- Robert L., 40, Poulsbo, Washington

I am a 62-year-old female looking to meet men between the ages 55-65. I look 10 years younger and don't lie about my age, but most of the men in this age range are looking for women younger than 62. I used my latest photo taken two weeks ago. I know I can

Are there actually women looking for older men, or is there an unwritten rule that says older than 55 need not apply?? I don't know if it's my profile or not (I cannot afford profile help), but I do not get too many responses. The ones who do reply say, "

I have met a darling man on the Internet. We have corresponded for 11 days. Numerous romantic cards have been sent, he has mailed me pictures of his family, and we seem to have a good match going. However, after not hearing from him for two days, I was qu

I have been dating on the Internet for three years, and I've had almost 200 dates. The problem is that I hardly ever get a second date. I'm also finding that every guy I go out with has no interest in me at all, even friendship. I am confused because I am

I was in a beautiful meaningful relationship that led to a too brief but wonderful marriage until tragedy struck and my husband died two years ago. I rejoined the dating world nine months ago and am having a difficult time finding someone who can measure

How realistic is it for a woman over 40 to expect a personal ad date to lead to marriage? -- Sabrina M., 43, Corvallis, Oregon

I have been having mixed success with Internet dating. I have posted attractive pictures of myself on several dating sites. I am truthful about my wants. Why do I keep finding men who are satisfied using emails to continue communication? I have talked wit

Does it ever get any easier? I've been married three times and am the proud parent of two beautiful girls, ages 23 and 25. It's almost as though they consider me a joke for wanting companionship. They're running around and having fun -- why shouldn't I? T

Two years ago I lost my 21-year-old son, the joy of my life, my only child. I don't want to deny the fact that I have a child, yet I don't want to tell anyone that I lost my son, then have to answer many personal questions from someone I have met through

I am a cancer survivor. I am also an honest, upfront person. I just went through a divorce, and I'm cautiously starting to date again. Do you think I should list my health history in my profile, or wait and discuss it after, say, a first email? I don't wa

How do I get over extreme anger at my previous close friend and lover who, as it turned out, betrayed me? -- Anne S., 60, Houston, Texas

At what point in dating someone should you tell them whether you would like to get remarried? I always think marriage talk could scare someone away, but it's important to be honest about what you want, right? -- Karen K., 55, Rutherford, New Jersey

How soon after my divorce can I start dating and not be considered on the rebound? After my ex-husband's multiple infidelities, I find it hard to trust another man. How can I overcome this feeling? I am beginning to feel that no man can be trusted. -- Kat

I'm recently divorced after 20 years of marriage. My daughter, who is 16 and lives with me, has a problem with me dating. What should I do to help her understand I need adult time? -- James W., 45, Marietta, Georgia

Nowadays, when do most people think it's the right time to begin having a sexual relationship? As an older person on the dating scene, I find it hard to understand what men want. It seems like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't! -- Peggy L.,

I was married seven and a half years and never really dated before my marriage. How do I avoid the rebound trap that people talk about? How will I know whether it's genuine or whether I'm using them to get over my last relationship and find solace? Will I