Dating 101: The Six Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make
The Millionaire Matchmaker sums up the errors single women commit and offers advice on how to avoid them
By dating blogger Erin Meanley for Glamour Photo credit: Randee St. Nicholas Updated: May 22, 2009
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I
am a huge reality TV junkie and Bravo's "Millionaire Matchmaker" is one
of my favorite shows. So I was more nervous to talk to the matchmaker
herself, Patti Stanger, than I've ever been for a date with a man. But
enough about me. Let's get to the good stuff (I'm obsessed!!). Check
out some of the biggest dating mistakes women make!
More Dating Articles from Glamour:#1:
They go on too many unproductive dates. "If you know
how to date, and you're meeting losers, get off the market and go into
dating detox. Clean your energy up so those people don't ask you out
anymore. The problem is we women are very impatient. We want it now.
Instant gratification! Sometimes the best single men are worth
waiting for. You might get one good date a year, versus 100 bad ones,
but he's worth it."
#2:
They go out with their girlfriends in the hopes of meeting
guys. "When you're with your girlfriends, you're not
approachable. They're scared. Single men are very timid. I have this
theory: Women who travel in packs do not attract. Men who are quality
aren't going to go in there and ask you out while your girlfriends are
standing right there -- he could get shot down. So it's a really good
idea, at about 4 or 4:30 P.M., to go to the bar: Sit at the bar, have a
drink, get an hors d'oeuvre, read a mutual-gender book like "The Da
Vinci Code," know the score on TV, and pretend you're busy. You're
reading a book, you're eating an hors d'oeuvre, you're meeting a friend
-- and then you're more approachable because you're by
yourself."
#3: They
think a guy will always like them if he just gets to know
them. "A guy knows right away if he's attracted to you
or not. There's no warming up. Men are microwaves, women are Crockpots.
Women heat up very slowly. They take in information; they decipher it
and download it into their computer. Men know in one second, yes or
no."
#4: They overshare
on the date. "Single women are so
trusting that they tell too much information about themselves. They
pump and dump -- they baggage dump! They say, "I'm all relaxed, now
he's my best friend and I can tell him whatever I want." They're
nervous, and they tell their life story -- and sometimes their life
story is not a good story to tell."
#5:
They don't let the guy talk enough. "The way you talk
on a date should be like a tennis match, but the guy should talk three
times as often. It should be 3:1. He volleys, volleys, volleys, now you
talk. You can answer the question every time he volleys, but then you
lead him with your question, and it should be topical to the
conversation he's having. You don't say, 'Hey, do you want to get
married? Hey, what's your ex-girlfriend like?' You don't do that. You
lead with what he's talking about."
#6:
They forget their manners. "The key to a good date is
to smile. Engage with eye contact. Let him lead and then you compliment
little things along the way. If he orders the dessert and you guys
share it, say, 'Oh, this is the best chocolate mousse, I'm so glad you
picked this.' Manners are key. Most people do not have
manners."
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- Dating 101: Secrets to Keep and Secrets to Spill
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