Create Your
A manners guide for single men that can save you from appearing like a chauvinist, or impolite fool
By Esquire Illustration: Ross MacDonald Updated: Dec 4, 2008
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Is
giving up your seat a show of respect or an act of outdated chauvinism?
A panel of actual women tell all!
Our lovely* panel:
Katherine, 29, psychologist, Palo Alto, California
Alyssa, 29, lawyer, Brooklyn
Laura, 33, fashion-magazine editor, New York
Patricia, 53, teacher, Cranston, Rhode Island
ESQ: The scenario: We are walking into a building in front of you. Do we hold the door open?Katherine:
That depends. If you are a step or two ahead of me, I'd expect you to
hold the door. If it's more than that, don't bother. If you're far
ahead of me, it's like you're waiting and I feel like I have to hurry
up.
We are seated on a packed train and you're standing next to us. Do we give up our seat?Alyssa:
I actually think
the idea that men should get up for young, healthy
women is ridiculous.
the idea that men should get up for young, healthy
women is ridiculous. I'm perfectly capable of
standing. I'm not a delicate flower who needs to sit.
the idea that men should get up for young, healthy
women is ridiculous. Laura:
It would kind of freak me out a little bit, like I'm old and infirm and
not a sassy young thing anymore.
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