Thank you, I wish I would've read this 4 months ago.

this is great advise not easy but... true!!!!

And I found the worse the ex is the more the kids seem to go to him my therapist said thats because they know I will always be there. The hardest part of the breakup is the children! After a 25 yr marriage its hard to believe you were married to the [profane] that long and it gets worse as the divorce goes on! Just keep in mind what goes around comes around.

Thanks. I think this is a sign for me to end a relationship that is taking me nowhere. I was just thinking about doing this today. THis just gave me the courage to do something about my future. I know it won't be easy..Mary

Wish I read this 3months ago. No, I don't even have a single person to fill in for the boo hoo patrol. But all this is great advise. What a surprise.

Awesome advice... and so very true. All of it. I am almost at 1 year of freedom after 15 years of bs. It gets easier, but there are still moments of saddness. Just be true to yourslef and learn to like YOU again! Then, maybe you'll be ready to meet Mr. Right!

thank you sooo much. i broke up with my boyfriend in august, and i was so sad. it turned out he used me. i was feeling depressed up until i read this artice. i need to move on with my life, and there'll be other guys. thank you so much for this artice. i think there should be a break-up column on yahoo! to help out with others feeling depressed. it'll save time and money--since you don't need to go to therapy.

I think the most difficult thing when it comes to a relationship is the paradox of putting everything you have into it. When your partner has let their walls down and is putting everything into the relationship, you have a decision to make, either you reciprocate and give 100 percent as well, or you should withdraw from the relationship entirely out of fairness. Unfortunately, even when we do break down and decide to give 100 percent and trust this person with our heart, that does not necessarily mean that you will not get hurt, and the consequence of putting everything you have into the relationship now becomes apparent, your securities lie in the status quo. When it eventually falls through, cognitive dissonance not withstanding, there are psychic consequences.

I sincerely agree with this article. I'm the boo hoo club for a very dear friend of mine. She knows she can count on me 24/7. I've been on the other end and suffered dearly. I truley hope that anyone who goes through a tough breakup has the opportunity to come accross this article to become enlightened. Prolonging the pain of a break-up by not letting go can make the heart heavy and/or harden. No way to live.

This advice is very true ! I have been through such situation myself and the truth is that all the advice given came to me naturally.Life situation help me to go through this process,my instinctual drive make the way for me to select the types of friends that were true to me.the heart ache was not only toward the partner but also to the friends you loss along the way.Some see you as the monster who was not fair on the guy till time prove otherwise,by the the friendship had already been destroy.one thing i can say is that time heal. from momo