I am in the same spot. Physically, she was perfect for me (and every other guy in town too)! The woman I wanted her to be and thought she was was a delusion. She was very untrusting of me, which shows she was an untrustworthy person. She was a liar and a cheater. Despite being “exclusive” with me, she kept many dating profiles active and was making dates, she kept many close ‘platonic’ male friends who she exchanged inappropriate pictures and texts with, and her best girl friends are cheaters. We argued often (about petty and big issues) in 2+ months and even broke up for a week. I later learned that she was definitely in talks and probably sleeping with other men during our relationship and short breakup. Both times I broke up with her I felt such relief, but later regretted it because I created this perfect image of her. I embarrassed myself and foolishly tried desperately getting her back because I missed what I thought and wished we had. Over the last couple months she was very mean. She’s said mean things, she sends me mixed messages, and brags about her other relationships. I learned that she was screwing her “platonic” friends shortly after our breakup, which means that my suspicions were correct that they were not just “platonic” but were either active lovers or a Plan B (and a threat to our relationship). Despite her wrongs to me, she refuses to admit responsibility or apologize for her behavior. I don’t miss her, but I do miss the good times and my image of her, but when I think of her I get disgusted. My real problem is just learning to trust women again. This is a real area of concern because she turned out to be so untrustworthy.

This is so strange. I was just thinking of the great progress I have made regarding getting over my ex. He was really the wrong person for me. But, I was newly divorced, and he paid me the attention that I longed for. After having to pay for everything in the relationship (literally), having him treat his friends better then myself, I finally came to my senses, and dumped him. It's strange, because I think about it, a lot. The thought of contacting him ever again, is a no brainer. NEVER. The part that makes me angry is, I know better. He was the wrong person who filled a void, and it makes me angry, that he didn't give two rips, and never looked back. Even though he was the wrong person for me, I did try and give it my all. I wanted it to work. Now, I have a hard time relating to men, when a "selfish" red flag goes up....man, people can be so self absorbed and selfish, that it baffles me....

I am going through the same thing. I understand how she feels completely.

Yup!! .... me too .. but i just give up!! i am going on my life and things are working out .... my guy ... hes something else and i think i am in love the idea of him and not him .... but he has issues .... he has alots of going up too do ..... things like this ... u just have to smile and .... wave good bye and move on ....

Its funny I’m going through the same thing now “a sad break up” unfortunately he is the father of my daughter so its even harder to move on. He has cheated on me so many times. This will be the last. I can not take the deceitfulness any longer The relationship has been a long 7 years but a lot of good memories. .No matter how lonely at times it will be I have to cross the bridge and go on my own I’m scared as hell! I’m 40 years old I know 20 years old who have a hard time meeting someone. How am I going to do this?. But life is to short to be in relationship where only ones in love

i understand how you feel completely. you can get through this! i've gotten through it before. it takes time, but you can do it! i know i don't know you, but i believe in you!

Time does heal. I was married for 17 years and dated him for 7 years before that. Near the end, he treated me awfully and he ignored the children. I soon learned that he was dating his thesis student. It was extremely difficult because we were living overseas and we have two small children (both on the autism spectrum). I didn't have time to mourn but picked myself up and moved back to the states to be near family and to advocate for my children. As two years have now gone by, my ex has only visited the children three times. My eyes have finally opened and I realize that he was the not the same person I thought he was. Sometimes we tend to see people through rose coloured glasses. My kids are doing much better and I feel like I have had a second chance at life. You should look at your loss as an opportunity for something much better.

Find a man girl!

well gurl u need to stop thinking bout him nd stuff... i have same problem as u... but sometimes i dont think bout him... when i broke up with my ex i keep thinking bout him nd everything nd my frend told me dat his not gonna be the last guy for me...nd dey say der r many boys out er better dan him... nd plus i blive dem nd now i have a new nd i forgot bout my ex.. i kno its hard to forget someone dat u really love but u have to try to forget dem...

I'm 52 and things just deteriorated between my faincee and me. She was irrationally jealous, and I was occasionally abusive toward her verbally. We had fantastic times together, but there were too many cloudy and dark moments as well. Ii was quite ironic that we separated under a complete and inane misunderstanding, but in my heart of herats, things would have ended at some point later on, so better that it did now. Best, Edna.