Hey, I don't know where you fine people are, and you did give this woman some fine advice. But where I'm from and every where I have lived, isn't the guitly one the first to be the accusser? And if not guilty of dead, thought? What has happened, to this woman, that the next man that comes along has to put up with this sad situation. Unless this woman is fiddleing around with a player. Isn't she sabatoging her chance at happiness. Isn't that is what we are all after? And I wish everyone else was happy too. Her case, she needs to ask the question, point blank. I hate to say this, but if I'm sleeping with you and I'm not the only one. I think that would be a need to know, the other person deservse to know, so they know where they stand and make the desion of whether or not to allow this situation they have put themselves in. Live life and be happy. Honey if you don't find love and what you were looking for here, keep trying.

I wouldn't worry about him being faithful when you met him on a dating site. Time is going to tell the story. The bigger question to me is he really going to be the way he represented himself to you online or will there be another personality to deal with after being with him for some time? If he's cheating, time is going to tell the story and you are better off knowing he's a cheater, the sooner the better. Removing his profile is a good sign, no one is going to have to convince him not to cheat as you two grow closer.

Wow, this very thing happened to me this year. I met a woman on Yahoo personals last summer and we dated for a whole year. I thought I was in a great relationship. We did have the talk about just seeing each other. I trusted her totally and I thought we were getting closer. But I come to find that she was reading my work/personal emails. She has spyware on her computer because of her two teenage daughters. And when I logged on she was able to get my password and she started checking my emails after the first month we started dating. She finally told me she has a trust issue with men. When I asked why would she do something like that to someone who never gave her a reason to...she said it was a habit and she couldnt stop herself. She has done it before to other guys she dated and so no reason why she shouldnt do it to me. So I would like to issue a warning to all those who uses someone elses computer. Be careful of using your passwords. And the sad thing about this...is she is back online looking to do the same to someone else.

Donna: No wonder you don't trust him! Why were YOU looking in another site if you like him so much and want an exclusive relationship? He sounds like a great guy, don't screw it up by not trusting him. On the contrary, treat him well, trust him and he'll be trustworthy.

Well this is a familiar scenario! For about 4 months I had been in what I thought was a monogamous relationship, then I asked that question (Are you still looking and wanting to date other people?) He lied first, then went totally silent. No responses to my phone messages or emails, I finally gave up. Total blow off with narry a word of explanation or apology. My advice to anyone in this situation is HELL YEAH check them out on other sites, men or women doesn't matter, because they would rather sneak around than tell the truth. He was on messenger with my best friend after 2 emails, but never missed a beat looking like the ideal boyfriend with me. Some of us are too darn gullible so it doesn't hurt to check them out. If they are offended then simply explain that you've been dumped on before so you're just being cautious, and offer to let them check you out as well. That way its mutual and you're not being a hypocrite.

Wow! Lot's of this going around. I went to another dating site because the address showed up on my computer. I was thinking maybe my teenaged son was going to this site which was more of a sex site than a dating site - who shows up? The boyfriend I met on Yahoo and who cancelled his subscription right in front of me and had his profile removed. Before I was able to confront him on this issue, I got a phone call from his wife. Talk about cheating! Well, he's signed on at Yahoo - again! And yes I did report him - but he's still there.

It’s not obvious if he’s really cheating on you or not. Otherwise you wouldn’t be worrying about it. You might also want to define for yourself at least what would be cheating. Would that include flirting on dating websites without actually intending to go a step further and meet someone? Is he still unsure about your relationship and not fully committed to it? Does he still want to test the waters? Could it be that he just forgot about that other dating website? Lots of questions to help you out; or confuse you even more. One thing you could do to sort this all out is try that mature approach described above. You got to know how to be mature though otherwise it might just degenerate into an argument which is not the goal here. The idea is to figure out where he really stands and to a certain extent where you stand as well. After all, you seem to have more an issue with all this than he does. So, in a way it’s about figuring out your own expectations and desires out of this relationship as much as it is his. Get really mature and ready for this talk. It’s the type which can happen early in a relationship and decides, like some major test, whether it just breaks... or goes on rejuvenated and solidified... at least until the next big one. ;)

I think it's wonderful that people can share their Internet dating experience with others. This feels like it could become such a valuable learning experience. Let's face it, there are some pro's and cons that are associated with this environment. For first-timers, it can be quite tramatic. Thank you everyone for the dialogue.

dont second guess him if you cant trust him from the get go and give him that until he/she messes up than maybe you should reconsider dating..even with a few warning you have to get to know someone not assume that all men and all women are cheaters or l iars.

I think that it's natural for you to worry that he may be cheating on you. Every now and then I feel this "paranoia" of sorts but then being with my girlfriend convinces me that that's all it is. Paranoia. It's a nagging sensation in our brain that makes us want to believe the worst in everything and everyone. This paranoia could be a good thing, but I think that you should trust him. Sure your trust could be broken horribly, but it would be better for that to happen than to lose him because he got mad that you didn't trust him. Try to silence the paranoia inside of you and enjoy being with the one you care about instead of constantly worrying that he is cheating on you or is trying to.