Andrew, dating is a game. Initially, women want a nice guy with an edge-- someone confident, someone funny, someone intriguing, someone hard to get. Once the relationship is full bore, they want a nice guy. Also, single moms, many time are reluctant to date. They don't want to disrupt their kids. When they do date, they want to date MEN not BOYS (they're already raising kids). Take the advice of suggestion two and three and combine them: ask them woman for a date. Be specific. Pick the date and time, yet remain flexible. If you go to the place she's with her friend, DO NOT go alone. It's all a game. Women want what they can't have. Try to hard, be too available, you'll get nowhere.

Women don't really play hard to get, at least not like that. If they are playing hard to get, they will give you reason to believe they are interested before they behave like they aren't. This woman has not shown you she is the slightest bit interested, so she almost definitely isn't. All she has been is polite, and really, no woman is going to tell you to get lost to your face. She's just going to be polite, but not reciprocal in your advances, and assume that you'll get the hint. So get the hint and move on the ladies who reciprocate your advances.

Andrew, meet her on Saturday night where she said she will be. See how she acts towards you. If you are getting the feeling that she wants you there ask her out again following the process Tom Blake suggested. If she puts you off then walk away. I will admire a man for making such an effort to ask me out , maybe shes testing you!!!

Andrew, we all like people who make us laugh and we all like being liked. Since you have given your phone number twice to her and she hasn't called, I agree with Evan Mark Katz and think you are confusing her politeness with being interested in you. I totally disagree with Kristin and showing up to where her and her friends are going, if it were me I would feel like you were stalking me and you would appear even more desperate. A better approach is to move on, after all if she does want to get to know you better she has your number and can always call you.

Andrew: Maybe the woman would feel more comfortable meeting with you in a group setting for the first date. Once she sees that you are not that bad, she will be glad to go on a more private date with you. Some people just have problems letting people get close to them. I would love to meet a man as thoughtful as you, however if you were to approach me I would find a way to say no. Even if I thought you were worth checking out. I'd go and see how you two get along in public.

leave her alone. she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

How does it feel to have the tables turned, guys? Men have been doing this very same thing to women for a long time now. Now, we're supposed to cry crocodile tears when a woman does it to a man?

I'd think the wisdom to this is to just back away. If she's doing such things then she is either very reserved or has issues of relationships (divorced alone, etc). Probally too many issues for you anyhow. Nice guys boy do we finish last!

Hi Andrew - I think this girl definitely wants to go out with you, but she is playing the game. She wants to test you to see how much you can pursue her. If you really want to go out with her, you must take the lead and set a definitive date with her by calling her at home or work and asking her out for the next weekend. Then after this date, call her right away, or (better yet) ask her out again before you part ways on the first date. Think football - you want to move the team down the field until you get a touchdown. Keep up on the telephone calls, and make the goal with this girl.

The fact of the matter is, women like to play games, but they don't consider them games when it's coming from them. I don't know a guy who is looking for a serious relationship who wouldn't prefer to have a woman just say she's not interested. Unfortunately, women seem to think it's more polite to not tell a guy, and leave him with mixed signals. There's not much you can do, dating is and always will be a double standard for women. They say they want a nice guy, but how often do they ever give them a chance? Unless you can basically deceive them the first couple dates, make them think your super exciting and fun, and then show them your a nice guy, you don't stand a chance.