Great advice, especially the current photo suggestion. Ladies, I know how hard it is to admit when one is over 40, but an old photo is deceptive and it's an outright lie-- a misrepresentation of who you are. A guy's going to see you anyway. If you look older than your photo, most likely you won't have a second date. When you're on a date, remember you're their to enjoy someone's company for the evening. You're not exchanging wedding vows. If things don't work out, at least you had a nice evening, hopefully.

Ok #1 comment, I take offense to your "Ladies, I know how hard it is to admit when one is over 40" You think woman are the only ones guilty of that? I have news for you... Men are no better. How about posting a photo where you don't have on a baseball cap and sunglasses and a huge parka? Dont want so show us that middle age paunch??? Or putting your graduation picture? Come on! Brows what we get to look at before you post a comment like that.

I agree with you #2. As a woman in my 40s, I have been on quite a few first dates where I didn't even recognize the person from their photo, and men are just as guilty as women of posting photos 20, 30 or more pounds ago. And I can tell you, it doesn't get you past date one, I don't care what a great person you might be, you've just shown yourself to be a liar and I'm not interested anymore. I try to never have any photos that weren't taken in the last 12 months.

Is it safe putting your picture on the internet? I am 50 and recently loss my husband of 31 years. I have not even signed up for the e-mail, since I am finishing up my semester of school. My friend encouraged me to get onto this site in view of the fact I have not dated in a long time.

I agree fully withYahoo contributer # 2 . Men who wear baseball caps and sunglasses, what are you really hiding? I am in my 50's and even though I wish I was in my 30's again, that is not going to happen, but at least I submit a recent pic, and show my true self. I have put on a few pounds over the years, as well as you as many of you males. The biggest thing I can't understand, is that while most of us women have a bit of a belly from the experience of pregnancy, what is your excuse for having bigger bellies than us, and expect to date a women who is physically fit? Also,when the first thing that a guy writes is "You're hot or you're yummy," that is a huge turnoff, it makes you look like you are looking for a woman to have sex with, never mind the fact that we are intelligent humans, and not the fantasy playthings in your mind. And don't call us girls, that is very demeaning. Those of you, who pose with your freshly killed game? Big, Big turn off to most women. The people that we have become, we are what we are now, because of our past experiences. That doesn't mean that we are still the same person we were all those years ago. As we grow physically older, we also have grown mentally, emotionally, and socially. Some guys responses seem like they have an arrested development social age of 16. Now if some of you guys respond with a rebuttal, because I struck a nerve, I am not bitter against men, and and I am posting my pic so that you can see I am not a homely looking woman who can't get dates. Quite the opposite. I am trying the online dating thing, because I have very little free time in my life at present. And the job I work in, offers little opportunity to meet available men that I would be interested in.

I agree with #2. Why be deceptive? I feel the same way, it's just lying and that's already a strike against you. I've had enough of lies and deception. I also don't want someone to agree with me until they think they "have" me and then change, because all that does is change the way I feel. I've been through 2 divorces, so I don't have a probalem with ending bad relationships. And if I can't have a good relationship I'll just be alone, because it's better than being in a bad relationship.

I agree with #2 & #6 ... I have been seperated for almost 18 years, he doesn't want to get divource but He & his co-worker still sleeping around (I couldn't bring myself to be near him or slept in the same bed with him) my estrange husband is a physically & mentally abusive, when someone around he act like a gentlement (behind the closed door would be the different story) I'm a very shy person and beside that I love my son very much..so I kept it all for myself.

I have been taught to have some manners.I deserve to be treated with respect.Not just a sex symbol.I always taught my girls two things.1:Act like you have a few brains.2:Act like you have a few manners.If you do this,people will like you and want to be around you.Don't let your mouth be a garbage can.It is not becoming to a gentleman.If you want a sexy little number say so.If you say you don't smoke or drink than don't.If you say you are single than be single.Not married and playing the cheating game.Be what you are or forget it.You aren't worth it.When you read a profile and that is not what you want,than go to another.The final choice is up to the person you contact.

I have goin to have coffee with a man on line he did not look like his picture I am 60 years old lost my husband in 2002 moved from fla to pa with not knowing that many people meeting men is hard . but I can't believe half what they say online the man I did go to see looked 20 years older that his picture. and he wasn't nice at all. I would like to meet a fishing buddie someone who lives life , not someone who watches it go by, well I can't decide to go on with the dating on line , but lifes a gamble . and I love living each day better than the last. good luck everyone.

Interesting I have been on four dates with a nice man here at YPersonals We talked on phone Thursday night about making plans for today or tomorrow. He wanted me to come up with a plan for today . This morning e mail from him says he is going to a Halloween party and tomorrow to his sisters house to wathc a footbal game. I did not hear about a party on our phone conversation and wrote back today to say have fun, I had a plan to head to the Coronado area and walk around the beach and have an easy simple dinner. So- I also told him in e mail I am still getting to know him at this point and was a bit angry that he wanted me to make our plan for tonight and then the Party thing is thrown at me. Oh well., He also mentioned maybe we could meet tomorrow afternoon after the game he watches. So, Long story short, YPersonal he CHatted with me, we met , went out three times and now, I am not sure what to think. In his last chat to me Thursday night, he mentioned he was leaving YPersonals. I asked are you wanting to leave me too ? and he said NO NOT YOU. So, I keep busy and Not wonder. I get the message so far. He does not know what he wants I suppose? He will be at some Halloween party and I was not invited, and nor would I go if I were invited at this point. He has yet to invite me to his home. He also owns his own company and is quite busy too. SO I probably am once again reading too much into this but, Maybe no, he is thinking of himself and not wanting me to be in his dating world . who knows. Thanks for sharing your ideas. I am 50 still turn heads and he found me on YP without a photo, as I told him I do look my age or younger as have been told. He looked younger than his photo and I liked that . Spiderwoman in San Diego