Hi Shelby, I used to have the exact same problem. but guess what. I've got a date tonight. Something that really helped me was a book called 'the fine art of small talk'by debra fine. it helps you start up a conversation with anyone in any given situation. try it...worked for me!

I want to know what types of relation ship we make. I am so intersting to meet new freinds who is coming from any where.

Shelby, 1. Stop putting yourself down and sending out that negative energy. 2. Concentrate on getting hobbies and interests, which in turn, will make you more interesting and boost your confidence.

As we get older and have more responsibilities, it IS more difficult for both men and women to meet other singles. I agree with the notion that we should venture out and join groups that are interesting to us; that way we are being true to ourselves (following our own interests), are mingling, and are more likely to meet somebody with similar interests. I also find that the older I get, the more set in my ways I am ... the less interested I am in projecting some sort of image to attract the right partner. I guess I've become more comfortable with who I am and less interested in playing games. On the one hand, it really narrows down the playing field, but on the other hand, I feel I am less likely to find myself dancing around in the "wrong" relationship. I admit that I'd honestly rather be alone and without a partner than be with the wrong partner.

wow, I'm not a cow. I keep my picture off so people don't pick me for my looks, and this is why. People can be soooooooooooo mean. They don't even know her and are slamming her. I think she'll meet someone nice. Yet ,she won't have to deal with a lot of this plain bad behavior by very rude people. Guys ask why they can't meet nice girls. It's because we're running so fast from guys that are mean, that we don't stop to breath and look at the nice ones.

What is wrong with you young ones is that you think thatit will never happen to you. Oh it will some day, when everything sags and your hunny is looking over his shoulder at some hottie. Shelbie it is true, stop trying so hard and find somethig to occupy yourself with and he will show up in your life, there is nothing a man likes bette than a woman that whom is sel sufficient. It is an attractive trait. Good Luck

Shelby I have friends that are in there 40s and 50s that have been married and divorced several times. I have been married for thirteen years since twenty two. No one knows the perfect solution to find someone special. I found my husband after dating his stupid friend. Shelby just live your life, be happy and confident with yourself. Be spontanious, Shelby do what makes you happy. Get a makeover, pamper yourself so you can feel as good on the outside as you do inside. Change your hair color get some new clothes anything that will make you feel special. Feel beautiful where ever you go and I promise you Shelby that, that special person will find you (you won't have to look for them), Shelby believe me, when you feel confident within yourself it will radiate to others. You are only as beauty as you feel darling. I never settled below my standards and I never asked a man out. Sweetie do the things that make you feel good and better yourself . You can't go wrong. Dance along hell or dance with your friends someone will notice don't be a wall flower.

im 21.. no one likes me? i dont even have friends! . what a world.........

the pressure of expectation while attending an event with a specific purpose itself is so massive,add to that a few rejections and non-events,then the frustration makes it so forbidding to prepare even..this situation is suitable only for those who can play under pressure...which most are not.. chance mmetings and places where one visits with oblique purposes-shared interests and hobbies-take away this pressure and whether a relationship is progressing or not depends on the inevitable factors of Nature and this is feasible for all..if things are not working out in one event and one occasion,there are always other places and events..NO means Next Opportunity..as easy as that..it works for all ,the normal and the common...

I really believe #11 has it right on the money. I too would rather be alone than be with the wrong partner. It becomes harder to compromise with a partner if you're set in your ways. I also think, the problem is that ppl have that fairy tale thing of meeting "the one". Who's to say that there is only one. Imagine wearing only one oufit or eating the same meal for the rest of your life.