Well Joann I am A 62 year old man widowed and look 55 so I am told, I signed up for the personals, Answered several ad`s But what I seen is all the ladys just are not serious act like they are trying to see how many men will answer them , I could not get even one to go to A concert with me I am no longer on the personals Looks like I will be alone for A long time I am serious about finding some one but refuse to play games Bill in Point Pleasant Wv.

I can't find someone who is serious about the one thing in life that I am serious about. That is Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour. Nothing is more important to me than knowing HIM. Men say they are Christian but then they say, rarely or never, that they go to Church. How can you be a serious Christian and never, or rarely go to fellowship and learn more about HIM....It has been discouraging and caused me not to join Personals.

Honestly, make the move. I am a much younger male who recently experiencedthe perils of internet dating. Not a single female sent me an email. Those I wrote didn't even respond. I would never take an advance as "desperation". If anything, he would be flattered. I know I would be.

So I went to a man's home for dinner we a fabulous time. He hasn't called, can I call him?

Go for it...There is nothing wrong with making the first move as long as you are prepared for what follows, good or bad. I strongly agree with Sheryl when it comes to the age thing. For some reason, men need someone much younger than themselves. They get into a relationship with someone younger, not really in the same place in life, and then wonder why it didn't work out. From what I have experienced, men need that 20 something Barbie. Let's get real, they probably couldn't even get that Barbie when they were 20 something! I know men are much more visual than women (I think we tend to go for personality, at least I do) so if they are supposed to be so intelligent, why can't they see this. That 'closing in on 50 & up group is tough!

I am a woman and I've made plenty of moves (online) and usually received very positive responses. But, I'm only (?) 44. And I've been told I look around 32-34 yrs old. Besides, I don't live in the U.S. Here (Northern Europe) I am actually very interesting to younger men - I have been contacted by even men half my age. I have to tell you that it's very flattering! I must admit I have not dated them, yet, but I'm sure I soon will - after all, I have nothing to lose! And, like you all say, age is just a number...

I do not see age, nor race...yes of course I do see gender...at least I do know that I need a FEMALE female.. If a woman makes the first move or if I do, what difference does it make... When I was 40 I met a lovely woman of 50, and I made the first move...did I ever learn a lot about youthfulness and humanity from her...the relationship was all chocolates and cognac, i.e. meat and no veggies; sensuality without commitment; it was absolutely wonderful but coundn't and did not last.

Ladies, no offense but every one of you has said you look 10 years younger than you are. That's like saying Georgia has been having an unusual drought for the past 10 years. Women now age better than they used to because they take better care of themselves. However, I wouldn't mistake some of you for anything but your stated age or more. Please, get a makeover and professional photo to show yourself at your best. In addition, think about the setting for your photo. Sadly, people are shallow and if you pose in a room that is outdated or unimaginative, it will affect the way you're perceived.

Honestly women don't make enough moves in my opinion. Especially in online dating. The problem you are facing is entirely cultural I believe. Men and younger women. Men are supposed to make the first move ect... I think times are changing and there are quite a few men who can appreciate a woman who is more assertive. Let those other men chase the younger women, you can't change them and you honestly really wouldn't want to. Just be yourself. Your Mr Right is there...

my mother will be turning 60 next year, and she too looks at least 10 to 20 years younger than her age. i'm 25 and i have a number of male friends who would line up to date her if i would just give them permission. she's also an actress in a very social theatre crowd and goes to a lot of swing and salsa nights at local bars and conventions; it's apparently the place to go for single boomers. needless to say, she gets asked out numerous times a night (i've gone with her once or twice, she gets far and away more attention than her 25 year old daughter, even though we look just like each other). i would suggest maybe you try to find a similar crowd in your city, you might have better luck than online. the guys tend to be a lot younger than the women, and if they're out dancing you know they're fun and energetic, even if they are your age or older.