My husband has been having affairs since before we were married. It's been three years and I just found out in November of 2006. I made the decision to forgive him and let him back into our home and my heart as I felt I should. Recently, I just found out that he has been patroling the chat lines and personals looking for women in our local area. It's most hurtful because he won't admit to it even though he was caught. I am telling myself that I am going to get over this and that I will be in a better situation soon. But, I have no idea how to stop being married or how to keep being married to someone who has yet to realize he has a wife.

I meet a man last year on line and fell in love. We communicated for almost a year and we actually meet for aweek in a foreign country. But he failed to tell me he was married and still living with his wife. When I found this out I was devestated and later was very angry. I feel for the woman who found out her husband was having affairs and continues to do so. The man whom I met is on still on line and continues to woo other woman. I was going to join a different site than the one I meet him on, but so far each site I go on he is on ---I have counted 5 so far. As they say once a cheater always a cheater. Dump him you are worth it!!!

to the woman that her husband has been cheatin, I can relate to that,I must commend you on tryin to forgive, I had the same story only with a cheating wife, I worked out of town to often doing construction, Just making a good living and supporting a wonderful family, Til she decieded she was lonley with my best friend, She left, but he soon dropped her, I guess his wife didn't approve of the deal, It was all fun to him while she was married, but as soon as she was available full time, he knew it would cut into his marriage, I don't want to sound harsh, and my opion only, but he will continue to do that to you, Better cut your loses while you can, There is a right person out there for you that will hold you #1 in their heart, Trust is a stong factor in marriage, once it's blown,It's hard to get it back, Good luck

I once caught my bf having other online relationships - he would pursue other women, flirt with them outrageously and exchange phone numbers with them. It devastated me back then. We got back together, agreed to let the issue go. All went well when I accidentally found out that he continued doing what he did before. I have recently confronted it with him and now he's accusing me of being pathetic for checking up on him. I am still bordering between sad and angry. Was it wrong to find out?

Married for fifteen years, we divorced November of 2005, because of the interference and competition of our five grown daughters. (He three, me two, all in their forties.) No, they could not have interfered had we made it clear that " we, as a couple" came first, but sadly,we did not. Now, after just eighteen months divorced, we have reconciled,not to be remarried, but to be lovers and companions. This is a great accomplishment! . Our chemistry is just as it was when we met twenty years ago, even though he is now 78 and I am 66. Just wanted to share this with others who may be in a similar situation.

My husband just died last year and I, feeling lonely, decided to start dating, and thought I found a great guy. He came over every day and got along with my kids great, cooked us incredible food, and made me feel like the Queen of England. After about 3 months I found out he just started to see another woman and he wanted both of us because he did not know what he wanted, so now all my grieving and lonely feelings have come back on me even worse this time, but it is true that only time will heal all that make you feel angry and sometimes it is not worth the angry feelings that consume us, just feel sorry for the person that is able to do these horrible things to another person.

Betrayal is a deal breaker, just like money arguments. Relationships like that should die, don't bother resuscitating them.

Just know that not all people are cheaters. There are truly loyal people out there myself being one of them. I caught my husband once before we were married and then caught him taking to women after I can't really prove he cheated this time but my gut says he did. I just have to try my best to forgive him. These situations can be very difficult to get through but "WE WILL SURVIVE!" Just know there are thousands of us going through the a relationship of betrayal. This would be a great time to find a hobby and meet new people. Let them know you are a surviver even if your really dieing on the inside. My grandmother always said keep your chin up and smile honey there not worth losing your self esteem over. GOOD LUCK!

I caught him cheating on me when I went on vacation overseas. I got even and set up a phony dating acct for the person he cheated on me with and I set her up online to pick me up from an airport that was 4 hrs drive from her place. Not only did she miss a day at her measly work, she didn't find her " date" at the airport and the hotel she booked. I sent him the transcript of our chat where she divulged all her sordid details of his member and the other men she was seeing on the side too. I also got a picture of her with her infected silicone boobs and her admittance that she was tested for HIV/AIDS. I got the satisfaction I wanted from both of them and it was so good to dump him as he was being frantic with his STD and AIDS testing. Sweet revenge.

I, too, was married to a cheating man. I even had problems with one of my sister's and him. Of course, everything was always my fault or my imagination according to him. I will never forget the emotional, verbal and physical abuse that I endured. I met my husband when I was 19 years old, went through my 20's, 30's, and here I am almost 44 years old and divorced. I found out about a year into our divorce that not only was he cheating on me, he was cheating on me with his first with and I can honestly tell you that when I found out it took a huge weight off my shoulders. All of the abuse that I endured which seems to tear you inside went away. As women, we know when something is wrong. Our intuition tells us, not to mention, when you've been with your husband for so long you know him better than anyone. It took me 5 years to leave my husband after being with him for 18 years. It has been extremely difficult emotionally due to the betrayal and not to mention financially, but you do get over it - within time. People tell me I look better than ever, shed weight off due to all the stress he was putting me through and feel and look sexier than ever at least 10 years younger they say I look. So "yes" it's definately the cheaters loss, we deserve nothing but the best. So whoever is out there swallow and swallow hard and move on. Take care of yourself and if you have kids, your kids. I left it all to show my kids that what he was doing was not at all acceptable, I did not want my kids to be future victims in their future relationships. I had it all and lost it all but my dignity, pride and faith in God will always be there so don't give up and show him/her that you are much more worth than what he/she saw in you.